Police launch manhunt for Mohammed Babangida’s children

The Nigeria Police Force has waded into what now seems more like a kidnapping case of the two children of Mohammed Babangida in the aftermath of his crashed marriage to Rahama Idimi, the daughter of Maiduguri, Borno State-based billionaire, Mohammed Idimi.

Sources revealed that the mother of the missing children, Rahama, is in Saudi Arabia. She left the two children in the custody of the sister, Zahra Idimi.

Mohammed Babangida and family.

The police, it was gathered, waded into the matter based on a Customary Court order obtained by the father, Mohammed. The interim order given was that both parties maintained the status quo pending the final determination of the case.

Zahra Idimi has since taken to the social media calling out Mohammed and accusing him of stalking her.

A source however revealed that the unfolding drama is now causing a serious rift even between Zahra Idimi, who is suspected of being in custody of the children, and her father, Mohammed Idimi, who has expressly given an order that the children be handed over to their father.

A source said:

“Now Zahra is fighting her absentee sister’s war and crying wolf on the social media instead of cooperating with the authority figure over the whereabouts of the kids who have never left the custody of their father even when Rahama moved out of the house over three years ago.”

The police have reportedly narrowed down the search for the children to Sunnyvale Estate, a popular estate in the heart of Abuja.

Zahra Idimi, it was learnt, told the police she has not seen the children in her custody since last Sunday and has refused to report the matter to the police.

She has, however, like a source put it, been “fighting and cursing” on the social media.

The police appear worried over the development as it is now one week since anyone has seen the young Babangida kids.

Culled from www.thestreetjournal.org

Tyra Banks Shares First Photo of Baby Boy York

The 42-year-old, Tyra Lynne Banks posted on her Instagram page Sunday the first photo of her first child and "miracle baby," York Banks Asla.

The America's Next Top Model host and supermodel looks gorgeous as she holds the boy close to her chest while he snuggles in a blanket.

This is the Happiest Valentine's Day of my life. York, Daddy @erikasla and I send you so much love.

A photo posted by Tyra Banks (@tyrabanks) on Feb 14, 2016 at 1:18pm PST

Tyra had revealed last month she and boyfriend Erik Asla had welcomed their first child, via a surrogate. He posted on his Instagram page the same pic of Tyra and their baby.

"Mother and Son," he wrote.

She had gotten emotional on FABLife in September while revealing she has been undergoing IVF treatments to try to become pregnant.

Co-host Chrissy Teigen had also talked on the show about her and husband John Legend's fertility struggles. They are currently expecting their first child, a baby girl.

Culled from www.msn.com/en-us/tv

Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie are headed towards a divorce, source says

Looks like there’s trouble in paradise for one of Hollywood’s most beloved couples!

A source exclusively tells In Touch Weekly that Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt are planning to divorce just 17 months after their surprise wedding.

Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt.

A friend close to the actor, 52, and actress, 40, says the Fight Club star plans to file the paperwork as soon as February, while he’s in LA filming and she’s in Cambodia directing First They Killed My Father.

According to the source, they will remain civil and do holidays and special occasions together for the sake of their six kids — Maddox, 14, Pax, 12, Zahara, 11, Shiloh, 9, and twins Knox and Vivienne, 7.

The friend says the divorce likely won’t come as a surprise to their kids, as the parents (who have been together for more than a decade) have long been living separate lives. But now, they’re ready to make it official.

“[Brad’s] ready to move on to the second phase of his life — and that no longer includes Angelina,” the source tells In Touch. “They’re done.”

Culled from www.intouchweekly.com
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7 factors that lead to parents breaking up

When Statistics Sweden released 2012 numbers showing that one in three couples with small children gets separated, researchers at the University of Gothenburg, also in Sweden, began to investigate the biggest causes of these breakups. They came up with seven factors: strains from parenthood, stressful conditions, lack of intimacy, insufficient communication, differing personalities and interests, no commitment (in the relationship), and negative effects of addiction.

These categories were based on 452 parents’ answers to a scientific questionnaire measuring relationship quality. Parents responded at three points in time — when their first child was 6 months old, 4 years old, and 8 years old. After four years, 23 of the couples had separated and another 16 were no longer together after eight years. Researchers used the questionnaires to measure the broken couples’ relationship qualities before they separated and compared the data with that of the parents who stayed together.

Yahoo Parenting spoke with the study’s lead researcher, Malin Hansson, a doctoral student at the Sahlgrenska Academy, as well as Wendy Walsh, PhD, a clinical psychologist and author of The 30-Day Love Detox, about how couples can strengthen their partnerships in the face of these seven not-so-unfamiliar factors.

Strains from parenthood
New parents deal with lots of first-time challenges, and they want to know they’re not alone. The importance of sharing the responsibilities for home and children is huge, according to Hansson. “Studies show that the relationship lasts longer and the couple is in better harmony when both partners take an active share of responsibility,” she says. Give each parent separate areas to handle, especially in the early days, so that no one person feels overly burdened.

Stressful conditions
Having young children creates “the most stressful time in the home,” says Walsh. Parents are especially in need of acknowledgment and appreciation — almost constantly, according to Hansson. “Show kindness, understanding, love, consideration, and respect for your partner,” she says. Even just saying, regularly, “I appreciate that you’re changing her diaper” can go a long way toward stress relief.

Lack of intimacy
Among all couples included in the research, sensuality and sexuality were at their lowest levels when their child was around age 4 — and the average age of the first child at the time of the separation or divorce was 4 years and 8 months. So how to turn up the heat? “The key is sensuality in everyday life, a lot of hugs, kisses, and physical contact,” Hansson says. “Sensuality leads to intimacy, which in turn leads to a sense of belonging and trust.”

Insufficient communication
“It’s very normal to have a temporary downturn in relationships when the kids are young,” says Walsh, adding that it will pass if the couple talks about ways to compensate. “Commenting on it and being aware of it is key. You can say, ‘Hey, we’re too tired for sex, but we miss it. Can we hug for 20 seconds in the morning to get some endorphins flowing?’ These small conversations save marriages.” If the downturn gets ignored, Walsh notes, that’s when trouble starts. Hansson recommends talking openly, clearly, and with straight “I-messages” when expressing a need. For example, instead of saying, “You never help me!” say, “I’d appreciate it if we cleared the table together before we sit down in front of the TV.”

Differing personalities and interests
Before kids, there was a lot of time for both people in the couple to pursue their own passions — and differing views on how to spend time after having kids can cause problems. “If you were to generalize, you could say that the separated fathers wanted to have more time for themselves, while the mothers wanted more time together with both their partner and with their children,” Hansson says. The solution? Honor both needs. Create some family time and some alone time for each parent. Even just 20 minutes at a cafe with a newspaper — or reading a book or practicing guitar — can help de-stress Mom or Dad.

Lack of commitment 
When there are issues between couples, it’s easy to ignore them instead of stirring up a fight. But the longer couples go without talking, the less engaged in the relationship they become. “Many of the separated couples reported that they waited too long to seek help when there were problems,” Hansson says. “Once they sought help, the issues had already gone so far that they could not find their way back to each other.” Seek counseling or some form of outside support early, before resentment builds.

Addiction
This is another area in which getting help early can keep a couple together. While Hansson acknowledges that “it is not always bad that parents separate,” she stresses that there are “unnecessary divorces” that are a result of a temporary downturn in the relationship, which could be avoided with more support — especially when substance abuse is involved.

Culled from www.yahoo.com/parenting
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